I don’t know if NT (neurotypical) moms pay more attention to their NAT (neuro-a-typical) child’s physical environment than they do to what might be going on inside that child’s mind. Mind reading isn’t possible, but possibly these moms realize already that hyper and hypo sensitivity exists just as well from what thoughts are occurring as it does from what senses are being aroused by a child’s surroundings?
It’s always very important for me to understand as much as I possibly can. Logic is my hero! I can’t imagine life without it. I am exactly as The Logic Boy is described!
Sometimes though, logic isn’t enough. That’s where faith comes in.¹ Truth is the best medication for a troubled soul! I got a good reminder of that late last night.
Most people know you shouldn’t drink coffee, soda, eat chocolate, or have anything containing caffeine, close to bedtime. However, never underestimate what a disturbing thought can do before bedtime, especially if you’re an Aspie!
Darcy couldn’t have known that God would use perfect timing to lead me to her blog shortly after midnight. I used to say the same thing she did, “God never gives you more than you can handle.” God bless Darcy for naming her blog What We Need to pass along what a woman once said to her. It was, “No, God gives us what we need.”
After reading that powerful statement, I remembered I read that page of hers before and forgot that God gives His children exactly what they need. When you trust God implicitly, that’s all you need to know sometimes!
Anyhow, that thought, God gives us what we need, instantly put my mind and body to rest. I slept peacefully and can now enjoy today because I feel rested! 
¹I choose to be misleading by saying faith can lack logic, because few people would believe that I can actually see the logic behind everything God gives and does. I’m not saying this was always the case though. This (super?)-natural ability is something only God can give to a person. There is no way I can teach it to others. Either God gives you it or He doesn’t. I can’t know why He chose to give me His gift of faith which happens to include logic. The only logical explanation I can come up with is actually quite simple→ That is what I need.
King Solomon prayed for wisdom. He got that and financial wealth; we got the book of Proverbs. I prayed for the gift of wisdom too (since being gullible is an Aspie characteristic, Godly wisdom is a must have). I received what I asked for (but I don’t always remember to use it!). However, instead of receiving financial wealth as a surprise bonus (which in my cause would probably destroy my life and make me miserable), I got a wealth of logic. Logic and wisdom are my best friends!
AMEN!!!!!
Comment by lookingforlifeshumor — October 6, 2008 @ 11:11 am
Thank you for your comment on my blog! I believe that statement about God giving us what we need with my whole heart.
And in terms of NT (I always think that term is so weird - I don’t think there is such thing as “typical”) moms paying attention to physical vs. emotional environments for their NAT kids; for me at least, I try so dang hard to pay attention to both. It’s hard, though, because I know my son needs much from me, and there are times I feel very ill-prepared to parent him properly. I feel as though I’ve been given this great, wonderful little soul to shepherd through life, and I’m just a mere mortal. Sometimes I am completely out of my league, if that makes sense.
Anyway, thanks for your kind words.
Darcy
Comment by asdmommy — October 6, 2008 @ 11:21 am
Is the term NT weirder than Aspie? To me, “typical” people are “normal” → normal is when you follow the crowd. Abnormal is when you won’t, but since some can’t, then those who choose not to end up getting lumped in with those who want to but are not able.
I see a lot said about the “ability” to mirror society. To me, society isn’t attractive and I don’t want to mirror it. I want to counter-balance this notion that we’re all supposed to think and behave alike (i.e., be typical). I’m fully aware of not being attractive to society. Others have no interest in sharing activities with me any more than I have with them (I used to, but not any longer now that I know how they think). It’s ironic that people would say I am anti-social when I was the one reaching out to others → going to social events, inviting acquaintances over for coffee, calling others on the phone, etc. All I found “those” people doing was “acting social” but not being so, since they would not keep their word. For example, I can’t count how many times I was told by someone she would want to get together with me for coffee or lunch, but then I’d never hear from her. When someone disregards her words said to me, I lose respect for her. People may excuse that by saying, “It’s not that simple.” My response would be, “Yes, it is.”
The parent who does not feel ill-prepared to parent properly most likely is. I TOTALLY understand the feeling of being just a mere mortal, so yes, you do make sense. Because we’re right where God wants us, He will bless our endeavors. I can see that now by the way that my children have grown up. The world would not be impressed, since it judges by standards like impressive careers. Food, shelter, clothing, and good health are necessary; the rest is blown out of proportion. God is pleased and so am I. My daughter and son have what counts → love and integrity; plus, they are content with what they have and who they are.
Darcy, remember that your great and wonderful son, who is still a little soul, will one day grow up to be a magnification of what you see now. He will be greater and even more wonderful, because that’s what love does.
Comment by Sheila — October 7, 2008 @ 3:37 am
Geez, you’re making me cry (in a good way). I do hope C will grow up to be a magnification of what I see now - I admit to worrying - mostly in the middle of the night - that the great and wonderful-ness will be pounded right out of him by mean kids, difficult experiences, and the like. Which is why I continue to try to be a soft place to fall for him.
I’ve always sort of thought the terms “normal” and “typical” are code for BORING. So maybe my problem with the term “NT” is that I don’t want to be that way.
Comment by asdmommy — October 7, 2008 @ 11:58 am