I’ve always sort of thought the terms “normal” and “typical” are code for BORING. So maybe my problem with the term “NT” is that I don’t want to be that way.

I see a lot said about the “ability” to mirror society. To me, society isn’t attractive and I don’t want to mirror it. I want to counter-balance this notion that we’re all supposed to think and behave alike (i.e., be typical). I’m fully aware of not being attractive to society. Others have no interest in sharing activities with me any more than I have with them (I used to, but not any longer now that I know how they think). It’s ironic that people would say I am anti-social when I was the one reaching out to others → going to social events, inviting acquaintances over for coffee, calling others on the phone, etc. All I found “those” people doing was “acting social” but not being so, since they would not keep their word. For example, I can’t count how many times I was told by someone she would want to get together with me for coffee or lunch, but then I’d never hear from her. When someone disregards her words said to me, I lose respect for her. People may excuse that by saying, “It’s not that simple.” My response would be, “Yes, it is.”

The parent who does not feel ill-prepared to parent properly most likely is. I TOTALLY understand the feeling of being just a mere mortal, so yes, you do make sense. Because we’re right where God wants us, He will bless our endeavors. I can see that now by the way that my children have grown up. The world would not be impressed, since it judges by standards like impressive careers. Food, shelter, clothing, and good health are necessary; the rest is blown out of proportion. God is pleased and so am I. My daughter and son have what counts → love and integrity; plus, they are content with what they have and who they are.

Darcy, remember that your great and wonderful son, who is still a little soul, will one day grow up to be a magnification of what you see now. He will be greater and even more wonderful, because that’s what love does.

And in terms of NT (I always think that term is so weird – I don’t think there is such thing as “typical”) moms paying attention to physical vs. emotional environments for their NAT kids; for me at least, I try so dang hard to pay attention to both. It’s hard, though, because I know my son needs much from me, and there are times I feel very ill-prepared to parent him properly. I feel as though I’ve been given this great, wonderful little soul to shepherd through life, and I’m just a mere mortal. Sometimes I am completely out of my league, if that makes sense.

Anyway, thanks for your kind words.

Darcy