What happens if a person acknowledges that someone may actually be suffering (the suffering is only from her perspective—not the Aspie’s) from this so-called Asperger ‘disease’ but still doesn’t want to learn anything about what Aspergers really is? Will she still be feeling superior or will she pity the ‘poor’ Aspie? Both will happen.
How could she feel superior? What would be evidence of it? For starters, when such a person believes she knows what’s best for the ‘ailing’ Aspie, it shows that she isn’t about to examine her own thinking to consider the possibility that just maybe the Aspie might know more than she does.
How do pretentiously compassionate people think? They think pills will come to the rescue to fix what they don’t like and/or understand. The alternative of self-examination to look for ways to truly be accepting and understanding of an Aspie by becoming properly educated requires genuine compassion. Genuine compassion doesn’t pity or give condescending sympathy (naturally, the one doing it isn’t aware of being condescending—heck, they’re not even aware of how little they’re thinking!). Real caring requires self-sacrifice and time. That isn’t too likely to happen in today’s fast-paced world of instant gratification that’s crammed full of over-activity.
Another foolish belief of neurotypical ‘do-gooders’ becomes evident when they think an Aspie needs to socialize with them on their terms after the Aspie’s meds have had a chance to do its magic.¹ You’d think they would be satisfied to forget about that Aspie who wants nothing from them and is content to mind her own business, but that’s not the way it works. To live by the rule To Each His Own doesn’t register in their brains. If it did, it would mean they have to stop trying to control what isn’t any of their business.
If I sound irritated, it’s because that’s how I feel. Anyone who is trespassed upon feels the same way. If the people who need to hear what I’m writing would even take the time to listen to me (instead of wishing to vomit nonsense they’d insist I swallow), I wouldn’t be needing to write this. Their unwillingness to listen speaks volumes.
¹Thanks to television commercials, they now have convenient drugs to name for others, but wouldn’t dare take themselves. Oh, they’ll consume bodily ailment medications, but the ‘mental health’ flavor is presumed to be manufactured for ‘other’ people.
