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Monk and Moss does it for me!

  • Posted on August 31, 2009

I am a giddy goat! I’ll just put this here with the rest of the fire:

For me, it’s watching Monk, and now Moss, when I see reflections of my own Aspieness. I’ve already mentioned a short football clip from The IT Crowd series. I’m burning to show the fire clip, especially the end section (at the last 1:58-2:39 minutes) where Moss is composing an email for help.

Moss has the corner cut!

You can watch all the IT Crowd episodes online, but they’re not High Definition quality (unlike YouTube’s HD clips).

Looking forward to hearing from you.

All the best,

Maurice Moss

Shame on Shapers!

  • Posted on August 30, 2009

A hair salon entangled themselves in some deception last week. I was discriminated against by their long-time receptionist, who I surmise took it upon herself to do what one of the hair dressers there told her to do.

Last Wednesday, the receptionist was snagged by her lies she told to my daughter and me. Is it that the 20% tips I left my hairdresser weren’t good enough or my compliments for previous hair cuts were socially inappropriate? Of course it doesn’t help that snobbery has reached an all time high in my community! It couldn’t just be my Aspieness and/or a collision between God’s spirit and the unsaved world?… after all, I’ve been going to this salon for 3 1/2 decades without any hassles.

On Tuesday, August 25th, I called my hairdresser’s salon to make an appointment for a hair cut. At first, I asked the receptionist if it was possible for my regular hairdresser to cut my hair again. Then I asked if there was anyone else who could give me a cut.¹ I was willing to wait a few days or weeks, if need be. I found it quite odd to be told that they were totally booked up for the next couple of months. I made no mention of wanting either one of the business owners to do my hair. I already knew how busy they usually are.

Normally, whenever a business is booked up, the receptionist will offer to take down your name and number for when a cancellation occurs. I knew the receptionist already knew who I was. No one forgets my naturally distinctive voice (I wouldn’t forget her plastic voice either.) Instead, the charmingly acted out call ended with the suggestion I call somewhere else.

The next day after I called, my daughter called that same place to find out if she could get an appointment. She was told by the same receptionist, “Can you come in tomorrow at 2 pm?” That’s when my daughter revealed to her what was said to me the previous day when I called. The receptionist was stunned. The best response she could come up with was to fabricate to my daughter that I specifically wanted a cut by the owner who sometimes does my hair.

I thought about contacting that owner to ask him if he was aware of the discrimination his employees practice, but then after remembering his typical friendliness he displays when we unexpectedly cross paths (like how he did two or three weeks ago) has me realizing it would probably do no good. It’s highly doubtful these days to find anyone who is willing to be honest and/or real, especially when they prefer catering to a migrant New York City clientele (known for its theater).

There probably are a few people who haven’t sunk so low, but with all the secular global warming going on, it gets harder to find them.

Postscipt— My son was the last one to call this hair salon. Now he has an appointment for Wednesday. No one there knows him, so wouldn’t they be surprised if I accompanied him there and asked to see the appointment book? I’m not motivated enough for that, especially since knowing we all have our names scheduled in the big appointment book with our maker, whom we shall all have to give an account to.

¹They usually have approximately a dozen hairdressers available everyday they’re open.

Body Bibles

  • Posted on August 20, 2009

There is the Holy Bible for mankind’s spirit and soul, but what about the body’s health? More specifically, what is there published for body building? A lot!… just like any subject, especially if it can also be related to looking good.

Looking good to others is probably something that I care the least about when compared to other reasons for being fit. I’m not saying that I wouldn’t be challenged if I had to spend the rest of my life in a deformed body. According to society, getting old these days is viewed as becoming deformed.

I, however, think its an honor to God when someone appreciates the way a healthy body naturally ages. When I say this, I’m not just including plastic surgery as an insult to God (tragedies, like getting burned in a fire or marred by a car accident, are exceptions since those things are unrelated to aging). I’ll even go so far as to say that dying the hair to hide gray color coming in is a form of rebellion against what nature intended.

For example, since its been proven that the brain absorbs the chemicals in shampoo through the scalp from repeated washings, its only logical that hair dye also seeps into the brain. The dye from tattoos slowly poison the body. Mercury from corroded amalgam fillings are another toxin (I know that from personal experience). Even ‘wearing’ underarm deodorants have been proven to have a negative affect on the body’s health over the long range. If a person stinks without such aids, most likely its because of bad body chemistry leaking out acidic odors usually due to a poor diet. If it wasn’t true that bad health can manifest itself through unpleasant odors, then dogs wouldn’t be able to detect things like cancer through scent.

Enough said about external influences. Now about the internal bodily mechanisms. Just as the planet earth has a delicate eco-system, every human body also has one. What we need to do is be in communication with what our bodies are trying to tell us. That’s easier said than done, especially considering how powerful and easy it is to deceive oneself. Even so, common sense can be enough for good health. But with all the books there are about healthy living, how many are there which are based on good sense? I have two favorites I’d like to mention.

My favorite book on nutrition is by Rex Russell, M.D., titled What the Bible Says About Healthy Living: Three Biblical Principles That Will Change Your Diet and Improve Your Health. There are several editions of this book. From what I recall, there are many who agree with me that those which include the ISBN numbers 0800717686, and are between the 1996 and 1999 editions, are the best copies. The hardcover copy I have has beautiful photographs throughout the book that makes it nice to have laying out where people can see it to browse through (e.g., the coffee table). With the way it’s written, it is highly enjoyable to read and easy to comprehend. Plus, it contains enough information about nutrition so it isn’t necessary to have other books on the same topic in order to understand how foods affect the body.

My favorite book on exercise is by James Villepigue, Hugo Rivera, Robert Kennedy, and Nicole Rollolazo, titled The Body Sculpting Bible for Women, Revised Edition: The Way to Physical Perfection.¹ There are several different Body Sculpting Bibles for men or women and for general body building or specific areas. The exercise routines maximize healthy results while instructing readers how to successfully achieve these goals using a minimum amount of time. The trick is in knowing when to do what and in what order. They explain the importance of ‘periodization training’ (also known as ‘muscle confusion’) for preventing the body from reaching a plateau where continued effort brings little-to-no result.

If either one (or both) of the books I mentioned are not enough to change the way you think about how the body works, then I also recommend None of These Diseases by S. I. McMillan. I doubt that S. I. McMillan is still living. However, in March of the year 2000, he was still alive while being over 102 years old! Besides having become a centurion, Dr. McMillan was a graduate of the University of Pennsylvania Medical School and the London School of Tropical Medicine, a medical missionary in Africa (for many years before he established a medical practice in New York), a college professor, and a Bible scholar. This book is also available in several editions. The best copies include the ISBN numbers 0800780302, and are between the 1993 and 1996 editions. The most recent edition, None of These Diseases: The Bible’s Health Secrets for the 21st Century, is not as good as the earlier ones before McMillen’s grandson, Dr. David E. Stern, M.D., joined as co-author. David Stern is trained in internal medicine and is listed in “America’s Top Physicians,” published by the Consumer Research Council. He added some updated materials in the revised editions.

It doesn’t make sense to read a ‘how-to’ book if it doesn’t also explain in enough detail ‘why-to’ do what it’s in there. That’s what I love the most about these books I’ve mentioned in this post.

¹Even though the Body Sculpting books include exercises using gym equipment, you can still apply most of the routines in these books by having only a few inexpensive aids; such as: an exercise ball, floor mat, and weights. It also helps to be creative when searching for a substitute. For example, doing the High Chair Scissors exercises can be done if you have a tree nearby with a couple of branches available to rest your arms on (placing folded towels underneath to cushion the pressure).

That’s a new one for me…

  • Posted on August 19, 2009

Last Saturday, I had an odd experience while typing a message on my computer to someone.

Normally when I’m composing text, if a television is on in the house, I insist on headphones being used so I can focus on my writing. Being that there were two viewers listening to a DVD through the set (thereby eliminating the headphone use option), I had no way to block out the auditory input coming to my brain.

The result, from my not being able to tune out what was being said, was that I ended up typing what was coming from the tv instead of my thoughts I attempted to convey. What really caught my attention was that I was typing what I wasn’t consciously thinking; plus, I was doing it word-for-word without any mistakes.

Now that half of a week has passed, I no longer remember in depth what I was trying to compose¹ versus what came from the tv. However, I still do distinctly remember typing the word road when I intended to type the word soul.

Reflecting back to this weird textual split now has me wondering if such a thing is exclusively an Asperger trait. It does prove what I said in a post I wrote last year in April:

Aspergians don’t have the same kind of data input ‘filters’ that NTs do. NTs normally don’t get overwhelmed by what’s around them. There are many things which escape their perception. Tests prove this.² Because Aspies unconsciously absorb too much information at once, it’s necessary to maintain focus on one thought at a time. An audible analogy of this principle would be like listening to a radio. You can only enjoy it if you tune into one station at a time. Imagine if you had no control over all the stations coming in at once. If that happened, you’d have to ‘tune out’ all interfering channels which prevent your concentration on the one channel that’s holding your interest.

This same principle of ‘multi-channel’ interference goes on when an NT is trying to converse with an Asperger person. I know this because I consciously practice paying attention to what I’m doing while holding a thought-provoking conversation with another person. Every time I have to respond by creating a new thought (e.g., rephrasing a statement into a question so as not to ‘offend’ the other party — often times as a ‘what if?’), before I can ‘grab’ my ‘new’ thought, I HAVE TO break eye contact in order to concentrate. If I was forced to keep my eyes focused on a person while she is talking to me during an intense and/or deep conversation, then she will not benefit from what I have to offer because I will be too distracted by other thoughts . . . just like you’d be if you were forced to hear all stations channeling in at once into your mind.

Its no wonder I get highly annoyed whenever people don’t comprehend how important it is for me to not be distracted by anything while I’m doing something. That doesn’t just include external input.³ Most of the time, its my own mind that distracts me, especially if I’m doing something boring like housework.

Because I’m almost always in deep thought about something, I tend to be far more clumsy than most other people. I usually break more than my fair share of drinking glasses, stumble quite often, get hit by objects I’m not aware are about to fall, spill things, etc. — all because of not being able to shift out of my deep thought fast enough. Needless to say, being a waitress or hostess would be my worst nightmare!

I use the analogy of comparing neurotypicals to being like flat stones that can skip across the surface of water versus Aspies being like round rocks that sink immediately. NTs easily switch tracks when doing tasks. That gives them greater success at doing multiple-tasks, which don’t require intense concentration, when combined. However, Aspies like myself, automatically go into deep thought almost all the time. For me to switch tasks, like going from washing dishes to stopping something from burning on the stove, requires a lot of motivation and self-discipline. That’s why multi-tasking easily can exhaust my energy, especially in social settings like parties or barbecues.

On a side note, Aspies can be successful moms, especially if they are aware of the differences between how their minds work compared to NTs. Even though children do grow up fast, they don’t grow up too fast for an Aspie mom to make the necessary adjustments needed during each stage of a child’s development. Being a good mom isn’t an easy job no matter what neurological structure you’re born with, but don’t think that NTs moms exclusively have the assets child rearing requires. That’s especially true in the case of NTs raising an Aspie child. NTs are capable of making just as many mistakes (if not more!) raising an Aspie child as an Aspie mom could make raising a NT child.

Aspies, being a minority, have to put forth a greater effort at most things they do. Its not much unlike being a female in a work population comprised mostly of males. The demand to prove yourself equally capable is more intense.

Postscript — What’s said in the second footnote below may sound like a contradiction and be difficult to comprehend correctly after what I said about why I’m more clumsy than ‘normal’ human beings. That just goes to prove how complex and rapidly calculating the human mind can be. In the example Temple Grandin uses in her book to point out how normal human beings are blind to anything they’re not paying attention to, it would help if an added factor was included.

The things which I’m more likely to be blind to (like noticing a little step in front of me, while paying attention to preventing a ball from injuring a child) are not the same things that most NTs might not notice (like not noticing someone wearing a gorilla suit running quickly in and out of a basketball court or not noticing an identical word being used twice in a mind-trap puzzle). The reason for that is probably is due to the level that something is disturbing.

Since Aspies and NTs differ a lot in the way they process information, they also have vastly different priorities. That being the case, it’s only natural that Aspies will notice things that NTs don’t (like what details are being left out of certain situations or what ones don’t belong in them). On the flip side, NTs will notice things that Aspies don’t (like when it is time to shift to something else).

Wow!… I’m way behind my schedule I intended for today! I wonder why that is? :)

¹I gave up and left my computer after seeing how impossible it was for me to accomplish what I thought shouldn’t be so impossible to do.

²Read the section Being Oblivious in Temple Grandin’s book, “Animals in Translation.” Along with other reference material suggested in that section, she states that “Normal human beings are blind to anything they’re not paying attention to.” Towards the end of that section, she also writes, “Being able to filter out distractions is a good thing; just ask anyone who can’t filter things out, like a person with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. It’s hard for humans to function intellectually when every little sensory detail in their environment keeps hijacking their attention. You go into information overload.”

³External input isn’t limited to auditory interference. Any sensory input can cause disruptions in thought. For example, perfumed smells can interfere with my thought processing easily. Things like high humidity, uncomfortable clothing, and florescent lighting, are a few others worth mentioning.

Football to an Aspie

  • Posted on August 13, 2009

Last night was the first time I ever saw anything like this one minute video clip from the 2nd episode of the 3rd series for the IT Crowd involving football. Its the absolute best portrayal of how I’d be at a football game too (along with many other popular neurotypical social functions)!

Since my best friend (an Aspie guy in the U.K.) linked me to this YouTube video, it has me wonder what percentage of Aspies think and feel the same way as Moss (and those like me) about such things as football games.

I’m sure this same level of distaste for football isn’t limited to (God only knows how many) Aspies. There are some neurotypicals who probably share these same thoughts about football. However, I doubt NTs would say they’d rather be weird than act like everyone else (especially since they generally are ‘pack’ creatures who crave to fit in with some clique and are terrified of traveling through life solo). I also should add that there probably are some Aspies who love watching sports like football (I’m not personally aware of any yet).

Richard Ayoade plays the character Maurice Moss. By just viewing this one minute clip, along with reading Wikipedia’s brief description of Moss’s character, that I’d have to agree Moss is an Aspie. He is described as being highly intelligent, lacks¹ social skills, is a “standard nerd” who struggles to communicate with anything that doesn’t have a keyboard, and lives at home with his mother, who also dresses him².

In case if viewers of this clip can’t comprehend the fact that there are many people with higher levels of intelligence who simply are too smart to surrender a vital part of who they are simply to accommodate those who don’t get why others are different, then I guess its something Aspies are going to have to vigorously attempt to educate society about. If this statement sounds arrogant, then I must be unintelligent because I cannot think of any other way to say what NEEDS to be said.

I’m thankful for my friend introducing me to some more British humor! In my opinion, it’s the best!… along with ‘having’ weird and a sweet style! This little ‘football’ clip is a keeper for me. It will always lift my spirits!

Postscript — This too from Wikipedia that shouts absurdity and discrimination:

Despite the company’s dependence on their services, they [Moss and Roy] are despised, ignored, and considered losers by the rest of the staff.

Parents be aware of the probable package that comes with being eager to have a genius child. You might think it would make you proud, but in reality, most likely your child shall suffer life being despised, ignored, and considered a loser. Monk types are another example.

There is a huge difference between being able to regurgitate massive amounts of information stored in memory (knowledge gained by education) versus being able to create (generate) novel³ thoughts.

¹To say he ‘lacks’ social skills is a misleading description, because that’s merely popular opinion and relative. If Moss was in an Aspie culture, his social skills would be wonderful. Any neurotypical in an Aspie culture would be the one sorely lacking social skills.

²Most Aspies can dress themselves just fine without anyone else’s help.

³Novel as in new or unusual in an interesting way.

Smear campaigns involve name calling.

  • Posted on August 9, 2009

Due to the insane amount of people interested in Harold Camping, I felt led to remove all of what I originally wrote in each post attracting traffic from search engines. I don’t want to encourage this kind of obsession.

People should be devoting their time and attention to the bible instead of a man who is constantly telling people to go to the bible. Christians should not need to be told twice by two different individuals to study the bible for themselves.

Kayaking

  • Posted on August 6, 2009

It took me years before listening to my gut feelings about boating, but better late than never! I finally purchased my first kayak and haven’t taken any photos of it yet. Since I found some good images online, they’ll do until I get around to taking my own pictures.

Some shops can sell this parafunalia for $330, but Gander Mountain happened to have a couple of Sound 9.4 Camo models by the brand Perception for $74 off its regular price of $370 this week:

Since I had to limit the cost of a kayak to under $300, doing intensive research before purchasing a kayak might have permanently deterred me from buying one. I was happy to learn from reading a couple of reviews written about Perception Sound Kayaks that they are a good value for the money. These 38 lb. 9½’ kayaks are capable of carrying a load up to 300 lbs.

Here is a video of this same kayak Chase placed on youtube:

I plan to do some fishing too now that I finally have a boat, but first I need to get my fishing license. Until that day arrives, I’ll be taking my dog Rascal for rides out on the kayak. I know she will love it! Fortunate for me, I have some great creeks and rivers nearby to keep me happily paddling all day long! I love how I can throw my backpack full of goodies right behind my seat to be within easy reach for whenever I want to grab something.

With autumn soon coming, the fall foliage will be spectacular to enjoy while being dry and cozy inside this fun way to get outdoor exercise! Do I hear the mountain lakes calling my name?

It might sound unbelievable, but as much as computers have held me captive over the past several years, kayaking definitely will decrease the time I’m indoors! I was already weaning myself from the internet by returning back to regular bicycling, jogging, and swimming. I forgot how addictive building up physical strength is and the amount of time it can devour. I used to think an hour or two a day was a hefty diversion from being indoors. Seven hours go by like a lunch break when out on the water in a kayak!

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