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That part about inappropriate being bad…

  • Posted on July 15, 2010

There is much written about Asperger individuals behaving inappropriate. I wouldn’t doubt that some would even classify what I’m about to write in this post as being inappropriate. However, the big picture calls for a warning about something listed under warnings. In this case, it’s the first one found listed in WikiHow’s article How to Relate to Someone who Has Asperger’s Syndrome:

Do not encourage someone with Asperger’s to behave in an inappropriate manner. Doing so will likely cause them to behave in the inappropriate manner more often. Pretty soon they’re doing it all the time. This is a bad thing.

I agree there can be some behaviors an Aspie might do which would be construed as inappropriate, but not all of them are a bad thing to practice. What I find somewhat inappropriate is the incongruity of the last tip that’s listed right above the warning section of this same article:

Never talk down to someone with Asperger’s Syndrome, or talk to them like you would to a child. It is deeply offensive and can cause someone with AS to doubt themselves and reinforce/cause depression. How would you like it if someone treated you like a child?

When I read this article, it makes me feel like I’m being treated like a child. If a similar one was written for Aspies on How to Relate to Someone who Has Neurotypical Syndrome, I’m pretty sure most NTs would also feel as if they’re being talked down to and being treated like a child.

Anyhow, the point I want to bring up for people to think about is to exercise caution before making the assumption that unexpected behavior, which is different from what’s normally seen by society, is inappropriate and bad. Erroneous conclusions are usually derived because of insufficient insight into what’s going on and why. When that’s the case, it’s best to just trust that Aspies (along with some Christians) usually have a good reason to behave different from what’s typically seen.

If you’re not an Aspie, you’re not going to be able to think like one either. What’s one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. That’s one reason to not analyze what or why certain behaviors are done by Aspies. Logical things don’t require it… but therein lies the problem! When you have a smaller percentage of the population containing the higher levels of logic, you end up with the greater portion suffering a handicap. If that’s not bad enough, add to that — the majority in a society (comprised mostly of sheeples) twist subjective values into objective claims. I have a news flash for those who don’t realize this → the less you’re able to think logically, the less you’re able to be aware of how much you lack this ability. I hope enough people can understand what kind of mess this can create.

Many years ago, I heard a report summarizing the common denominator found among the entire world for longevity. It wasn’t diet and it wasn’t exercise, although they do affect health (focusing only on those two things are the cause of inconsistent statistics over time). It was the ability to go with the flow. That makes sense, because if you’re reacting, you’re not taking action. Action is both passive and active. It is passive when you’re accepting things you can’t change and it’s active when you’re changing what you can. Going with the flow is natural, but it takes wisdom for humans to practice it. In contrast, (for example) tectonic plates can’t be foolish like people can, so they can’t do anything but go with the flow.

Imagine if mankind came up with a way to lock up fault lines in an attempt to prevent anymore earthquakes. Without the power to control forces originating in a radioactive, solid iron inner core, I doubt it would take long before something even worse than the earthquakes would happen. Going a step further, imagine the consequences of messing with the earth’s core! While you’re at it, why not mess with it’s creator too? I digress again… sorry (today is one of those days).

We can learn a lot from nature, because it’s scientific. Human behavior is not reliably scientific. Therefore, it’s ultimately foolish as a source of education, if it’s not measured against a higher standard.

The bible tells us what’s appropriate versus inappropriate. To ignore God’s word and rely solely upon the mental health industry’s mutating versions of their Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders filled with code numbers and psychobabble jargon that they don’t even agree on and/or understand enough of the time, but yet can fatten their wallet regardless of whether or not their services actually help clients/patients (eee gads, I’m being straightforward!), is begging for an eventual world-wide mental meltdown at the very core it stems from (psychiatrists and psychologists). It can only get worse now that more and more psychologists can prescribe medication after consultation with a psychiatrists. If you don’t get the whole picture of what’s eventually coming down the pike here, let me just say it’s not light at the end of that tunnel.

(Everyone has an opinion they’re entitled to speak freely about, so if you don’t like mine, there are plenty of others to form a bond with.) Wink and Grin

Christy Fix gives the most recent example I can recall of what most people label inappropriate behavior. So it’s bad to eat when you’re hungry, while others have no appetite, just because they don’t think like you do? If you read her post Well THAT was inappropriate!, meditate upon her two insightful statements:

“I knew there was nothing I could do…” and “What happened happened. I couldn’t change that,…”

These remarks sum up what it’s like when you exercise passive action to go with the flow. Those without the appetite, didn’t have one because they were reacting to the flow. Reacting to life is foolish and can be harmful to your health.

To differentiate between what reacting looks like as compared to taking action, the fictitious example set by Aspie Moss in the 2 1/2 minute video clip from The IT Crowd – Series 1 – Episode 2: Fire! may be helpful. Even though this clip is a bit ridiculous, it serves as a good illustration of what I’m talking about. You can see Jen walking past Moss to go out the door. She isn’t running frantically, but she is subtly reacting and is not going with the flow as well as Moss is. The fine line has to do with emotion. When emotions stay stuck to the stimulus, it triggers a chemical response within the body that accelerates aging.

The absolute best example (and my favorite!) I’ve seen of someone going with the flow is Aunt Sylvie in the movie from the novel Housekeeping. It’s quickly noticeable in this two minute trailer. The book adds more detail than the movie (without altering any of the plot), but the movie (in my opinion) is more fun thanks to how perfectly Christine Lahti suits Sylvie’s character. Why she goes unnoticed as as Aspie woman, played in this film, doesn’t surprise me. People typically mistaken her as being schizophrenic, which I can understand why that’s hastily done. To comprehend a character that’s as complex and unique as Sylvie requires innovative thinking.¹

Reactions are what cause such things as unforgiveness and revenge. The movie Amish Grace displays how the Amish community goes with the flow.

You can have a strong ability to employ logic for solving problems, like The Monty Hall Problem for example.² But, that doesn’t necessarily mean you also have Godly wisdom. If you have His wisdom, it also doesn’t necessarily mean you can solve problems which require logic.

Whether you’re strongly logical in thinking, or have a reservoir of Godly wisdom accumulated, or both, you’re likely to exhibit behaviors on occasion that today’s society perceives as being inappropriate. For example, because so few non-Amish (including many professing to be following Christ) can understand the Amish community’s ways (including the ways of some non-Amish Christians), they’re also unable to comprehend the consistency between shunning and forgiveness.³ When incorrect judgments are made, behavior can get labeled as being bad.

If we fear how others judge us, we won’t fear how God judges us and vice versa.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.” — Psalm 111:10

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” — Proverbs 1:7

To not fear the LORD is to not respect and honor God and what He says. Having faith in God’s word may seem foolish and illogical to the world, but that’s only logical and to be expected, considering how the world basically has little-to-no desire in giving God the glory for all things.

¹If you’re interested in a little more about the film, I mentioned some of my thoughts on it in What you see is what you get.

²[Don't read this footnote, unless you want to skip the problem and get faced with the answer.] If you look at the situation logically, you’ll realize: 1.) What is physically behind the doors never changes. 2.) You can’t apply mathematical “logic” after the reveal and call it a 50-50 chance. 3.) The prize goes behind one door at the start. Either it’s behind the door you choose first, or it isn’t. What happens with the reveal doesn’t physically change that by making it more or less likely. If you’re experienced with logic, you’ll know that thinking it’s a 50-50 chance is taking a “logical” approach to a “different” situation. You’ll also know that if you were to put a prize behind one of two doors, it would indeed give a 50-50 chance of being behind either door. In the case of this problem, it’s not what happened. The prize is already in position “before” you come to the point where two boxes are left.

³Isaiah 55:8 — For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.

One-Sided Fence?

  • Posted on April 11, 2009

Could anyone be so ridiculous as to believe there is no other side to a fence they’re looking at? Well, actually that might be the case for little children looking at a tall fence made of boards so tightly next to each other that they can’t see through it.

Knowledge is not something people are born with. It’s something that must be acquired through learning. Another thing humans are born with is a self-centered perspective. That combination is what makes knowing reality one of the most challenging tasks for mankind.

Take for example a very young child riding in a car during the night when the moon is in full view. If he hasn’t learned enough about earth science yet, he is going to think the moon is following the car. Trees and houses pass by as the car is in motion, but the moon stays in place. Something is going to have to fill that void in his mind to explain what’s going on, so he will devise his own perception of reality.

Here’s another example: It takes a one-sided fence perspective to believe that Christopher McCandless displayed selfish behavior in the movie “Into the Wild.” Why would Christopher write in his book

“Happiness only real when shared”

if he was selfish? Some people never experience the other side of tall tight-wooded fences if they can’t see all the empathy and compassion shown by ‘Alexander Supertramp’ in that movie.

I’m a mother and grandmother (AND an Aspie!) who knows fences have two sides. I’ve also been a daughter (my parents are deceased). If I was the mother of Christopher McCandless in “Into the Wild,” Christopher would have known he had my blessings for whatever he chose to do with his life as an adult, especially when he made the sacrifices he did to graduate college with the grades he had! Of course I’d be in deep grief over the loss of a child, but I’d have peace knowing that my child got to live his life his way (as in that movie; not as someone like Jeffery Dahmer).¹

Children are not born FOR their parents. Loving your child means sharing his happiness. It does not mean he needs to conform to what will make the parent happy; nor does it mean spoiling your child by allowing him to do whatever he wants.

Everyone should learn how to walk balanced on top of a fence, because all fences have two sides. When you’re on top, you can see things from both perspectives.

Christopher McCandless displayed traits of Aspergers² in “Into the Wild.” That could be why he was hypersensitive to judgment and control:

“Society, man! You know, society! Cause, you know what I don’t understand? I don’t understand why people,³ why every f**king person is so bad to each other so f**king often. It doesn’t make sense to me. Judgment. Control. All that, the whole spectrum. Well, it just…”

I did say (on April 2nd) my interest in the debatable subject of autism and Aspergers is decreasing, but what I’m realizing is→ as long as I’m living in this racist society that (for the most part) refuses to honor neurodiversity, I shall be shunned  for ‘just being myself’. Unless some major attitude changes occur, every Aspie will be judged wrongly. The only time that might not happen is if the judgmental NT gets on top of the fence and learns s/he has no more of a right to judge than the Aspie on the other side. Without that humbling experience, society will always be trying to control the way it thinks Aspies should behave.

My life isn’t anywhere near as bad as it was before I became aware of why people are prejudice against me. They haven’t changed. I changed because I got truthful answers. The most vital answers were not voluntarily given to me. I had to dig them out like a miner going after diamonds underground. If people thought I was strange before, now they really think I’m odd because they can’t understand how I can find life so sparklingly beautiful even though I still don’t blend in socially.

I find it humorously ironic when I’m sought after due to my consistent sincerity only to have the pursuit of getting acquainted end because it exposes the other person’s hypocrisy. Genuineness is attractive, but rarely is it reciprocated. It has become socially correct to ‘dumb down’ everything. As long as that includes integrity, neurodiversity will never be honored.

I wish I could forget about Aspergers, put it behind me, and never write about it again. That’s why I say, “Shame on those who spit on Asperger traits!”

¹[Edit added on 4.14.9: After thinking more deeply about some of the things I've said here, I feel I should emphasize that my opinions about Christopher McCandless and how I'd be if I was his mother are "Into the Wild" speculations (not to be taken too seriously). The main point I wanted to emphasize is how a one-sided fence leads to judgment and control.]

²Not only were these traits evident in the movie, if you read enough about his real-life character, maybe you’ll notice them. He most likely would have inherited AS from his father Walt McCandless, but without having as much detailed information about Walt, it’s harder to say.

³“…parents, hypocrites, politicians, pricks.” said Christopher.

High, low…who’s to know?

  • Posted on April 5, 2008

Just what the world needs, more loose terminology that’s subjective and inflicts subtle bias. If it’s not complicated enough with “high-functioning autism” and “low-functioning autism,” then there is the controversy of Asperger’s being a form of autism versus it not being one. Personally, I’m still divided on this part. I lean more towards believing that Asperger’s Syndrome is not a form of autism, but maybe that will change as I learn more.

Meanwhile, I’m stuck having to work with terms I don’t feel comfortable with. Until a better vocabulary structure can get established for describing autism (if it’s even possible to change thanks to how stubborn people can be, myself included), I will temporarily compromise. Hopefully others will come up with ideas on developing a proper language to replace what’s misleading people now.

Labels like ‘high-functioning and low-functioning’ have their place and purpose, but the problem is that unless a person is at the receiving end of the label, most likely s/he will be unaware of what impact it has. What happens to one person, actually affects everyone sooner or later. The whole human race is in the same boat, so when people are careless about others and don’t think about them much, then the result is chaos. It’s a dilemma because humans by nature are self-centered. That’s why this world will always have war and disease.

Back to the functionality of people . . .

Who gets to decide what level another person is placed upon in regards to fitting into this world? Can’t people see that to measure another person’s functionality is basically judging their value? How many people would not mind being referred to as being ‘low’ functioning, ‘retarded/slow learner,’ or as being a ‘special needs’ person? How demeaning!

People should appreciate those who don’t conform very easily. It’s the non-conformists who provide the best displays of the Pygmalion Effect (self-fulfilling prophecy). Everyone basically lives up to what they believe about themselves, but it’s those who ‘swim against the tide’ that can teach the most. They can because they’re usually the ones who don’t buy what others are selling too easily. I used to live my life totally brainwashed because of what other people had me believing about myself. I was told I’m too stupid to go to college by my high school guidance counselor. I could go on from there, but won’t. My point is that if a child believes he is ‘low’ functioning and the world reinforces that, then unless a miracle comes along to convince him otherwise, he will live that self-fulfilling prophecy out in his life. That’s the consequence everyone will then have to suffer just because some people were thoughtless, ignorant, judgmental, and probably arrogant too.

Along the same lines of misjudging, I (and some others) see what problems tests cause. Testing is okay for the most part, but they also can do a lot of damage. There are so many adults that have grown up convinced they’re less intelligent than what they are because of tests. Tests are a two-way street. Often times the creators of tests are the ones who are deficient in intellect. When that’s the case, then the ones who are made to take ‘their’ tests end up being judged wrongly and then are duped into believing what’s not true because they’re not allowed to question the questioner!

Oh yeah . . . that reminds me of something else twisted around about Asperger people. People complain because Aspies question authority. Duh . . . well what if someone sees something wrong? They’re supposed to keep quiet so they don’t cause humiliation? Forget that! I’ve had my fill of keeping quiet. If I see something wrong with the picture, I’m going to try to straighten it out on the wall. Otherwise, everyone will keep looking at a crooked image. Is it wrong to have a nature that gets disturbed over things out of alignment?

We need more of a variety of words to describe the different ways that different can mean. Either I’m too tired to think of them or maybe they don’t exist in the English language. Whatever the case may be, it’s time to re-think the impact a word can have. After all, “the pen is mightier than the sword,” right?

Sensitivity to Value

  • Posted on March 27, 2008

It’s because of my sensitivities that I had to choose the ‘symptom’ and asperger characteristic of strong sensitivity to sound, light, some tastes, odors and colors today. If I picked a different asperger issue to counter-balance the massive amount of misinformation circulating through the media, my anger level would escalate too high.

I doubt most people realize how difficult it is for someone, such as my ‘aspie’ self, to endure watching documentaries filmed on the topic of autism. I won’t mention which one I viewed today, but I will say it lasted 93 minutes and 52 seconds. It did cover the issue of sensitivity to sound and light, but practically nothing was said about autistics’ sensitivities with taste, odor, or color. That’s no big deal.

What is bad however is the way that people are reacting towards autism and autistics. Watching so-called ‘educational’ videos on this topic reminds me of a bunch of hens running around a hen-house in a panic without knowing where the fox is. There is no way to ‘sugar coat’ this — the ignorance level of a lot of the people who are putting themselves in charge ‘helping’ autistic children (especially the Asperger syndrome/high-functioning autistics) is scary.

Why don’t these people incorporate the help that ‘well-aged’ adults, who are either Aspies or on the high end of the autism spectrum, can give them? Doesn’t this missing ingredient raise any red-flags for anyone? . . . or are people to dull and/or proud to notice?

My heart breaks when I see the way that adults in these documentaries try to ‘train’ autistic children! It’s obvious to me they don’t know what they’re doing.¹ Some of them at least are getting a vague ‘connection’ pulling them into the right direction when they allow their children to teach them something. The reason these children can’t teach anyone else other than their parents is because no one else really cares to know! People may pretend, but if they are, they’re most likely doing it for whatever money they can grab for themselves by taking advantage of a situation.

How long will it take for people to wake up and see that it is not the children who need to change, but rather society’s perception of them? One mother summed it up perfectly! She said her daughter taught her that there was NOTHING wrong with her daughter, but rather the problem was that society would never VALUE her daughter . . . even though her daughter has aspects about herself that have value which society could benefit from.

Heightened sensitivity itself is a value when used in the proper channels. Is it necessary to say what advantages a person has, who is able to discern more subtle sounds, tastes, odors, colors, lights, movement, details, etc. with greater accuracy, than someone who is less sensitive in these areas?

If we know that you can’t put a round peg into a square hole, then why do people believe it is possible to fit autistic children into mainstream schools? Since it’s obvious there are enough neuro-A-typical children in society that would benefit from schools specifically geared to their style of learning, the whole idea of trying to make mainstream schools accommodate their needs is absurd!

The problem however that would crop up with schools specializing in teaching students on the autism spectrum would be keeping out the greedy foxes that sneak in. The television media is already feeding them, along with big businesses such as: Starbucks, Toys ‘R Us, and Build-A-Bear Workshop. I spot quite a few of these ‘bad apples’ sitting in at asperger conventions. It’s easy for me to tell who they are by the way they ‘talk down’ to me as if I’m inferior. If I’m not supposed to be sensitive about that, then I say, “Oh well . . . good luck everyone because you’re going to need it!”

¹I’m talking about the general long-term consequences more than anything. The process is slow and subtle; one step at a time.

Offensive Bridge

  • Posted on February 7, 2008

Whatever happened to, “If everyone else jumps off the bridge does that mean you should too?” It still exists, but the figure of speech is only used when it conveniently serves someone personal agenda. A fine example of this is in the area concerning what gets to be called offensive.

It is ironic that the very thing people fantasize as being true and greatly desire is also the very thing they can’t see that can be their own worst enemy too. It all depends on what the majority believe. The majority rules, but does that mean the majority isn’t jumping off the bridge?

The liberal crowd permits freedom of speech for allowing the term homophobia to be created and used, but they adamantly object to the conservatives being allowed to use the term fagots to refer to gays. The rational is that it is a derogatory term, but yet the majority is not seeing that the term homophobia is equally derogatory. Just because one person doesn’t think something doesn’t mean that everyone has to do the same and vice versa. If the minority have strong convictions based on what their consciences drive them to follow, then of course it is impossible to not be offended by such things as same-sex behavior.

The split divides even deeper when it comes to getting offended by labels such as mental illness replacing the term sin. Why do such things like this happen? Well, in this case it is comfortable for people who fear having to be responsible for wrongdoing. Even though it might not be them personally being labeled mentally ill, still to take away the blame from others creates the fairy tale that if they ever do wrong, they too can act like a victim of circumstances rather than responsible and accountable for wrongful behavior.

Yes, human nature is full of evil. Few have a problem with admitting that no one is perfect and this is the quick answer to many situations which involve something they’ve done which are obviously wrong. Then that given the case, why is it that most have the problem with admitting there is a problem with all of mankind and do everything in their power to stay in denial of this? The only reason this can be is because somewhere deep down inside everyone is the nagging sense that imperfections not only remain, but have such a strong hold on one’s self that is inescapable. It can’t be seen that the very things which hold the strong attractions which affect the heart’s desire are harmful lusts. Even good things are lusts when the motive is bad. You are a servant of whatever you love. If it is self-love, then watch out because denial and the practice of deception have to abound.

Why is it that one person can not get other people to see the truth or even want to see the truth of things? Why is it that people who are self-deceived can not even get themselves to see the truth but rather believe they already have it when they don’t? That would be like expecting a child to conceive themselves. Because all of mankind is in the same human nature boat, it is not in the ability of any person alone to be able to help another human being in the most important aspect of being alive-that is, “Who are you?” You are whatever your heart (i.e. – love) is. No one complains about the statement, “You are what you eat,” when it comes to the physical body. Why should there be difficulty to realize that “You are the being of your loves?”

Is it any wonder that statements such as, “Oh, you analyze things too much,” is said whenever questions get directed too deeply? Could it be that maybe the fear of truth is getting too close too home? Why should this be frightening? Well, if there exists this fictitious perception instead of seeing life through non-fiction glasses, then of course no desire can exist which will compete against one’s most powerful love of their life-that love being self.

The water in which more and more people are jumping off the bridge into is the sea of delusion. Until one first abhors their self and can see that something exists in him/her self that’s ultimately ugly self-serving, the direction has to be decadent. Why should it be so hard to see that no other outcome other than continuous chaos has to occur no matter what type of governmental structure is created? Yes, some times go more smoothly than other times, but why is life a roller coaster of ups and downs? How can mankind believe that it is possible to create a world with fewer downs than what history evidences? This is true insanity-expecting a different outcome while really all factors of the equation remain the same! Two will always be two no matter what else you might want to call it, but yet the higher the education goes…the less the ability to think independently comes about. Evidence of this is that upon closer examination of who are the people most stubbornly attempting to lay claim that two is a relative and not absolute value (of course they might deny doing so, but really if one has the courage to read on and wants to know the truth, this will all fall into place), it generally shall be found among the most educated folks. Children don’t even think so irrational, but given the environment of being raised in by the standards set of the “upper” class, it is just a matter of time before they too will get trained into the same pattern.

Einstein was well aware of this through his own experiences of learning. Creative and independent (i.e. – nonconformist) thinking is best when separated from the practice of constantly gathering information of which grows to work against being able to stay out of rule ruts. By the way, the term rule ruts, is just another way of saying conformist. This is why the greatest artists and geniuses in history generally happened to prefer being as reclusive as possible so as to not allow the influences of others to cloud their creativity. The least creative people in the world are usually the most socially correct, because their greater focus is upon the basic human need of belonging and acceptance. This is also why the greatest artists have been able to express powerful emotions through the communication their art work presents when being hyper sensitive to the world around them. This is also why such people as popular rock musicians have often battled drug addiction. Drugs provide a way of escape from the influences of information from without, so that the creativeness from without can be enhanced. The problem behind that though is even if it might work to accomplish the goal of expression, it does so at the cost of thinking becoming chaotic. This explains why the quality of the messages portrayed behind the attraction of creative talents sadly lacks wisdom.

Going back to the Einstein example, even though he knew the effect that higher education was having on his ability to think independently, it was because of his awareness of this concept (due to his intelligence) that he did all he could to stay best away from allowing this problem to make him become more conforming. The catch-22 of intelligence is that the more it exists, the greater the curiosity to understand things also exists which thereby causes the strong urge to learn and that in return makes knowledge increase as creative talents are under the threat of being crushed by it. This does not mean that all people who seek to be as educated as possible are doing so because they are highly intelligent. There are other motives besides intelligence to cause this. Most of the time, it is the love of money and self which is the driving factor. Not too often shall you find going back in time an arrogant doctor or lawyer quite so arrogant while he/she was in the toddler stage of life. This is why scripture warns about knowledge can puff up a person. How else is it that games shows with questions for people to answer are so popular if it wasn’t for the competitive nature in human beings? Also too, when someone has an impressive car, house, boat, etc., they can then feel superior over those who have less. The test which reveals why someone has the goal of these finer things in life is seen when those finer things in life get taken away from them. They get devastated! Why, they might even jump off a tall building and kill themselves if they loose their fortune! Hey, they can’t help who (what) they are. They can’t help who they are because they don’t want to. They can’t want to, because nothing exists in human nature to make them sincerely want to. It isn’t human nature, so unless you are not human, you have to be an idiot to be certain that you wouldn’t do the same thing yourself if you lived that person’s life.

It must be pointed out too that at the opposite end of the scale, the most unintelligent (retarded, if you will to call it) people have talents which have amazed others in regards to such things as being able to play an instrument so exceptionally harmonious or see a concept so deep in truth that the normal person has no idea what it is that is seen much less even begin to understand it. If that’s not bad enough, people don’t even want to see or understand others so different. They would much prefer to just label them as a nut or weirdo and send them to some institution so they stay out of the world’s system and are no more a bother to them by being so non-conforming to others’ selfish nature who pridefully think they should get to be the ones to decide how things should be because they are the majority.

Why else do those who are so prim and proper immediately tend to disrespect and are easily offended over another who might have rotten teeth, non-maintained hair, ragged clothes, etc.?

Talk about insanity! Who is the more insane person? Just watch how a child might grow up naturally if he or she had no parent to intervene to train him/her in what is socially acceptable. The insanity is that adults will not stay aware of the fact that within them the child they were never goes away even though on the surface they are polished into being civilized. It’s the same excrement, only a different day. This is also why if an adult stayed childlike in their honesty, it is not socially acceptable. In fact, it’s down right repulsive to society! An adult who remains childlike is like having a perfectly non-distorted mirror in front of a naked obese fat person. Either the fat person is going to smash that mirror or else he/she will desperately try to convince him/her self that there is nothing wrong with being fat (i.e. – being a greedy glutton for excessively pleasing the taste palate to him/her is an alternate life style and nothing is wrong with it because it’s not matter about facts with him/her but rather perceiving it as being an opinion of which they are entitled to). To travel on the avenue of self-delusion is to fight reality while traveling the road to smash the mirror is to seek flight. This is what any living creature does when it is scared…fight or flight. So, what is it that people are so scared of? The truth is they are terrified of their own self and don’t even know it. Well, if loving your self is so wonderful…then, what’s the deal behind being so scared and unwilling to face truth? Could it possibly be that the truth is you’ve really been lying to yourself and you are your own worse enemy? Isn’t it saner to fight or take flight against your own self when it is your own self who works against you and is your enemy? How can mankind order the way in which the majority of people should go when all people are human beings? That’s like putting the blind in charge of leading the blind…eventually they’ll all either jump off the bridge or fall off the cliff. Shouldn’t this create an awareness of the need for seeking answers outside of mankind?

Nature is the evidence of a creator. Do people think things happen for absolutely no reason? If so, then can any action happen without a cause? What caused what exists to exist in the first place? Can any human know this? Today’s educated people believe they can answer that question. The insane answer given is that no thing created what exists, but rather what exists created itself. That’s like trying to use the logic that you conceive yourself instead of confessing the impossibility of having anything to do with that particular sperm uniting with that particular egg which resulted in the being of you. We all are the byproduct of conception and so is all of nature the byproduct of a supernatural creator. This is why it is dead wrong to attempt imagining God as how self desires God to be (like the popular belief that God that has no hate and only love). Unless the fact is accepted that we are to change our corrupted and polluted perceptions by seeing how much we need to be conformed into the likeness of who created our existence to be, we will rather choose to conform to a either chaotic standard created by the majority of mankind or a chaotic standard we design for ourselves. This is why it is impossible for truth to be relative and that truth is something that is absolute.

There isn’t much problem over facts being either absolutely true or false, so the subtle way to avoid dealing with an absolute standard is to twist facts into being called opinions. Since opinions are what is really relative, this works fantastically to create a false sense of peace for people so they can avoid being responsible for their nature of pride that attracts them constantly towards self-gratification. Self-gratification is like a drug though in that it always wants more and is never satisfied. That being the case, how in the world can facts stop evolving into opinions on an ever increasing scale? The reason man can’t answer that is because in this world the way it is it can’t stop getting more distorted and has to decay. How humiliating it has to be to realize how utterly helpless man is to fix the world’s problems much less his own biggest problem which is his love affair with himself. How different is it than the child insisting to fix something himself that the parent knows the child is unable to fix? No matter how much he might want something, that is not going to mean that’s the way things are in reality. But yet, respect must be given to illusions. How so? Just like a child who imagines a monster under the bed while the parents know he is being ridiculous, to that child that imagined monster is real to him even though there is no monster. If the child wants to believe there is a monster there, you are not going to convince him otherwise. In his eyes, his opinion is a fact. This is no different than trying to tell almost all adults who can’t see what there is to abhor in their own self, since they don’t want to see due to self-love, that they are calling facts opinions and opinions facts. If someone is going to make an imagination real in their mind, then to them it is as real as that monster is to the child imagining it even though the fact is it doesn’t exist.

Because things go this way, this is an example of why such things exist as people desiring to do away with the Constitution of the United States. First in their mind, they must turn the facts of absolute right and wrong into being opinions. Then they can say that laws written back in time were merely men’s opinions. This provides an open door to irresponsible behavior since no one will argue that shame or guilt can occur out of opinions. Everyone can be their own judge then. Plus, the headache of having to build more rehabilitation centers (i.e. – prisons, jails, institutions, etc.) along with the humiliation of knowing they don’t work how people would like to imagine they should, can come to an end. Would it ever occur that maybe rehabilitation occurs only from the inside out instead of the outside in (forced to be in prison to rehabilitate a being)? Why is that we should wonder. Could it be that the problems are programmed within mankind and mankind is generally evil, while whatever isn’t evil in man has to come from some outside supernatural being? Does it solve the problem to permit lawlessness, which is what is really happening if such a thing as the Constitution of the United States is abolished. Those who support abolishing such a thing as what our founding fathers established, are really abolishing their own selves along with the rest of mankind along with them. Talk about an example of just because the majority of people jump off the bridge does that mean we should all follow! If you knew for a fact that you were either heading off a bridge or cliff by the force of being locked inside a car out of control, wouldn’t you panic and hate the feeling of being dragged to your doom? Well then those who can’t (again…they can’t because nothing remains in them to want to) understand the non-conformists who have what is now un-common sense, since wisdom is being flushed down the toilet due to education being valued more than wisdom, better expect there will always be people around who are going to fight for their life (which also is fighting to preserve all of societies beings) to hang on to convictions and principles. Those convictions and principles are the key to unlock the door to get out of the vehicle carrying mankind to its demise.

How loving is it to sit back and have some buttered popcorn on the street corner while you watch those inside a burning house watching television unaware that they are soon to be burned up? How wise is it if you are so close to that burning house unaware yourself that inside it contains explosives not yet heated up which will blow you to pieces if you just sit there and do nothing? Of course any sane and caring person can’t just sit there and do nothing.

The impact these words have upon you the reader is the evidence of who you are from what you choose to believe. It isn’t up to each individual what is the truth is. Ironically, when listening to people talk, it is the people who deceive themselves who desire to leave out statements such as, “I believe, it is my opinion that, etc.” The people who are the least self-deluded are the ones with the wisdom to include such statements when needed and that’s my opinion.

Didn’t dance, but . . .

  • Posted on January 28, 2008

Yesterday afternoon, I did get a rare opportunity to meet another a fellow Aspie new to me. We sat side-by-side at a crowded bar, while waiting for a table to dine on. I enjoyed a pleasant chat with him. After he left, I was stunned to hear the comment someone else blurted out to me about him. This blurter didn’t even converse with Mr. Aspie guy, but yet he felt free to make a rude remark.

The blurter said, “That guy isn’t too tightly wrapped.” I decided to not even respond to the jerk’s statement. However, I couldn’t help but think to myself, “It’s appropriate that Mr. Aspie guy isn’t too tightly wrapped. He isn’t the one who belongs in a straitjacket.”

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